Sunday December 6

so savpin invited me to this guys home by the name of PJ Rogers a couple days ago for dinner, and I was so pumped. you never not take an opportunity to get a home cooked meal. I would get super upset for some reason when my dad invited people Over at our house expecially college students. I think because I felt like my dad was just being annoying, but he was just being a homie. I don't know why I would get mad, but now I understand. I am officially a poor hungry college student. and our species will do anything to get food. anything. hahaha anyways so we met him about 2 months ago at a fireside. he teaches financial something here and byu-h. is from Texas, but has the kindest heart and gives the best advice I have ever heard. he could talk to an audience for hours and I still would be mesmerized at everything he says. yeah, he's that good. his children welcomed us with jumping hugs and holding our hands, and talking to us like no big deal. it made me miss Reagan extremely because they reminded me so much of him. just so loud and annoying and brave and charismatic. ahah but we had family chat. something that I loved. we went around the table and told him what each of us learned at church. I loved listening to it. he then gave us some crazy crazy ideas about life. how God is bound to us, that we CAN receive and get one thing to God even if he doesn't want us to have it. and it's the miracle of life. we can create life regardless if God wants us to or not. AINT THAT CRAZY??? we are Devine beings and that power to create life is something so valuable and precious. it made me appreciate it so much more. 

he then gave us desert which was like hot tapioca pudding that was unreal. and then he talked to us about marriage and boys. and it kinda struck to me how much people talk about it in my life now. marriage could be a next step in my life. I'm not saying it is, but now that I'm this age there's that possibility. but he gave us 5 steps to having a successful marriage that I think is crazy crazy good. I just have to share. cause anyone can benefit from this. 

wives need from their husbands: the doctrine of pj Rogers 

1. affection (over and over again) not necessarily sex. but affection is the most important thing wives need. daily! girls have to be reminded every day that you love them. by cuddling, rubbing her back, asking how they are, telling you love them. Daily. DAILY. 

2. communication: guys- don't care how you feel, don't need a lot of detail. girl: do care how you feel and need detail. girls and guys are different. 

3. open and honest. over the top open and honest. 100% 

4. family commitment. dedicated to family. his family period. the wife first.  then the kids. then his parents/ your inlaws.

5. finance is last. people think this is the main cause of divorce, but people can be poor and happy. if they do the first four steps they will be happy, but finance is important. 

go to marriage counseling BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED 

IF HE WONT, find another dude. 

take counseling when it's good. If he won't do marriage counseling when its all good, why would he go when it gets bad. if your partner is not willing to compromise, go Find a new spouse. period 

well I think I just have been prepared. hahaha brother Rogers is an amazing righteous guy that I am so thankful I met.